Vistravi
30-Apr-09, 20:52
A thought accured to me after looking at crayola's thread meeting up with the dead.
When my dad died i didn't get to say goodbye or tell him i loved him. He choose his end to go unnoticed as that was his way of trying to make it better for us. It was his choice to do that but it didn't stop some of my family like myself felling like we had missed telling him we loved him or to say goodbye. He died when i was at work at preciesly half 6. I knew that day i wouldn't be finishing my shift, don't know why but i never did that day as got a call saying to come home at 7ish.
If i could by any means nesscary i would've said goodbye to him and wished him well in the afterlife. I can't and it will always be left feeling like there was unfinished things with him. It's been 3 years and i still miss him and as i think of the future esp when i have my kids, it saddens me to think that they'll never know their grandad. he'd have been a wonderful grandad as he was a great dad. As i have some of his personailtiy in paritcular his blunt tongue and scary temper, he showed me how to use these qualitys in cutting down any one who deserved it to size. He taught me the imortance of loving my siblings no matter what fall outs we had as i can remember him telling me that friends would come and go but i'll always have my siblings. Between him and mum i've become the perceptive person i am now and due to my dad i am wary of who i show my heart to. I firmly believe that he has been watching over me since his death and has helped me overcome things and make some hard descions.
My mum told me when we were speaking again after 2 years apart that she never doubted that i'd surrive the painful grief unscathed and that i'd always been the strong one. I can see that now as i know i am a strong person and always have been. Now i am strong for so many people. i am the one that most of my friends turn to for advice on most things and who i there for my younger brothers and sister one of my bros in particularly whenever they need advice or help with anything.
Does anyone else feel that they missed saying goodbye to someone due to bad words exchanged or missed opportunitys?
When my dad died i didn't get to say goodbye or tell him i loved him. He choose his end to go unnoticed as that was his way of trying to make it better for us. It was his choice to do that but it didn't stop some of my family like myself felling like we had missed telling him we loved him or to say goodbye. He died when i was at work at preciesly half 6. I knew that day i wouldn't be finishing my shift, don't know why but i never did that day as got a call saying to come home at 7ish.
If i could by any means nesscary i would've said goodbye to him and wished him well in the afterlife. I can't and it will always be left feeling like there was unfinished things with him. It's been 3 years and i still miss him and as i think of the future esp when i have my kids, it saddens me to think that they'll never know their grandad. he'd have been a wonderful grandad as he was a great dad. As i have some of his personailtiy in paritcular his blunt tongue and scary temper, he showed me how to use these qualitys in cutting down any one who deserved it to size. He taught me the imortance of loving my siblings no matter what fall outs we had as i can remember him telling me that friends would come and go but i'll always have my siblings. Between him and mum i've become the perceptive person i am now and due to my dad i am wary of who i show my heart to. I firmly believe that he has been watching over me since his death and has helped me overcome things and make some hard descions.
My mum told me when we were speaking again after 2 years apart that she never doubted that i'd surrive the painful grief unscathed and that i'd always been the strong one. I can see that now as i know i am a strong person and always have been. Now i am strong for so many people. i am the one that most of my friends turn to for advice on most things and who i there for my younger brothers and sister one of my bros in particularly whenever they need advice or help with anything.
Does anyone else feel that they missed saying goodbye to someone due to bad words exchanged or missed opportunitys?