Confidence.

[sweetpea]

Life is one big stage after all. Fake it to make it eh.

[TBH]

Life is one big stage after all. Fake it to make it eh.

You know it's the truth.

[Cedric Farthsbottom III]

Confidence is gained with a little bit of time.Confidence was given to me by one of my teachers at High School.I was very shy.He was putting on a school play and he asked for volunteers.I was an okay drawer so I volunteered to help with the set design.A day before rehearsals we were all painting the set,listening to music.We were dancing away(Jim Royle stripping the wallpaper style),when the teacher came up to me and asked me to say a line from the play but in a monsters voice.I did,he liked it.I loved the play,I got some confidence.
Mr J passed away in January this year.Thank you sir.Sometimes teachers do make a difference.

[crayola]

The negativity of it crayola is well deserved to thurso high.
Two of my younger bros go there and the school is giving them a poor education. The school has given up on them. I hated that school but i made use of every opportunity that was available to me and was determined to do well for my sake and for the career i wanted to go into.
You can sing this schools praises if you want but the school in my opinion isn't worth any praise. The best day in that school for me was the day i left and went to college. The school is not equiped to help any student who has even minor difficulties. Like i said in a previous post i won't be gracing thurso high with my kids presence when they come along. They will be going to good schools and will have a better education than thurso high can provide.
We all have different opinions on this school and this is only my opinion and as i can't ever see myself ever coming back to caithness to live again its not something i will have to worry bout.

I appreciate that you think the school is bad and that you didn't enjoy a good education but you haven't said why you think it's bad or why you hated it.

What did they do that was wrong and what could they do to make it better? Why do you say the school is giving your brothers a poor education?

I thought the school was pretty average by most measures these days.

Which high school would you want to send your kids to and why do you think it's better?

[Aaldtimer]

You can sing this schools praises if you want but the school in my opinion isn't worth any praise. The best day in that school for me was the day i left and went to college. The school is not equiped to help any student who has even minor difficulties. Like i said in a previous post i won't be gracing thurso high with my kids presence when they come along. They will be going to good schools and will have a better education than thurso high can provide.
We all have different opinions on this school and this is only my opinion and as i can't ever see myself ever coming back to caithness to live again its not something i will have to worry bout.

Just what era are you talking about Vistravi?
Sounds like Caithness is weel rid of you!

[crayola]

How charming. Let's give the girl a chance to state her case before lambasting her.

[Vistravi]

Just what era are you talking about Vistravi?
Sounds like Caithness is weel rid of you!

I lived in caithness for almost 21 years and that is enough time to give. I have no interest jus now in settling anywhere and want to live in many places before i find the right place to live in.
I always knew i did not want to stay in caithness for the whole of my life and 20 years was enough.

I appreciate that you think the school is bad and that you didn't enjoy a good education but you haven't said why you think it's bad or why you hated it.

What did they do that was wrong and what could they do to make it better? Why do you say the school is giving your brothers a poor education?

I thought the school was pretty average by most measures these days.

Which high school would you want to send your kids to and why do you think it's better?

Why does anyone not hate high school? I hated high school and there where only a few teens in my year worth knowing as most of them were two faced/arrogant etc. Shelley you're one of the good ones
The school like all the other average schools can't accommonade any child/teen who is not "normal". They can't help the ones that really need their help like my brothers. The school is happy with telling them their stupid and won't be able to do this or that. This means that they don't see the bright, brilliant spark behind the difficulties.
I don't know which one my kids will go to as when that chapter unfolds i'll be researching the schools and decided which one will be the best.

[cuddlepop]

Its been a week since my daughter sat her exam in hosptality and today was the first day back in the kitchen cooking off one of her dishes for Foods of the World.

The experience has seriously questioned her decision to make a career out of cooking.

It tasted wonderfull and I know she can cook,I just wish "confidence" could be "bought" and gift wrapped.

[Gene Hunt]

Seems to me Cuddlepop that she has found some confidence already, she got back in the kitchen and can obviously stand the heat, I know that's an awful pun though ....... I'm sorry.

I struggled badly in training but I am perfectly competent now, maybe a bit of under confidence can be a good thing. I don't think anyone is really super confident at a young age, some are just better at faking it than others.

It just takes time, confidence is just knowing that you can shrug things off and keep going, you cant learn that unless you have taken a few hits.

[alex]

It's too late to help your daughter in her immediate situation now but for others in that situation I'd say that everyone is full of doubt about their abilities especially when we are all examined so much these days by those who think they are wiser than us.

What's worse is the enthusiasm with which it seems we watch people humiliate themselves in front of such examination (Talent, BB etc.) and judge their performances here on the Org or in the pub, the water dispenser, outside co-op or texting our friends.

For the many thousands who face formal examinations and tests each year to achieve genuine qualifications I offer my great respect and sympathy. I hated exams and regularly underperformed with the stress (both self-imposed and by the impression I felt of others expectations - including my own parents) but I learned eventually that the only opinion that really counted to me was my own.

In myself, I know when I've performed well or done a rubbish job and could have done better. As a judge I am harder on myself than anyone else could ever be because I know me better than anyone. When I have done well and pleased myself, then I am truly happy and can walk tall among those who would drag me down.

Find a copy of that song "The Greatest Love of All" for a lyrical explanation of this philosophy. George Benson was the version I knew but there are others.

[cuddlepop]

Thank you Gene and Alex its tough being a mum but your both right.you've got to get the knocks to "stand the heat" of the kitchen and only time will give my daughter the chance to "get to know herself".

Will look out those lyrics,music is powefully theraputic

[Gene Hunt]

"Times Like These" by the Foo Fighters .. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Juw-p...eature=related

Positive Lyrics about the tough times in life. My daughter listens to this when she gets a bit hacked off with things.

[crayola]

I lived in caithness for almost 21 years and that is enough time to give. I have no interest jus now in settling anywhere and want to live in many places before i find the right place to live in.
I always knew i did not want to stay in caithness for the whole of my life and 20 years was enough.

Vistravi, you don't have to apologise to anyone for leaving Caithness. But then I have to say that because you lasted three years longer than I did. I escaped when I was 17.

Why does anyone not hate high school? I hated high school and there where only a few teens in my year worth knowing as most of them were two faced/arrogant etc. Shelley you're one of the good ones
The school like all the other average schools can't accommonade any child/teen who is not "normal". They can't help the ones that really need their help like my brothers. The school is happy with telling them their stupid and won't be able to do this or that. This means that they don't see the bright, brilliant spark behind the difficulties.
I don't know which one my kids will go to as when that chapter unfolds i'll be researching the schools and decided which one will be the best.

I liked high school for the first few years and I loved it for the last few. I made many friends some of whom I hope and expect will be friends for life. I'm sorry your experience wasn't good.

I'm intrigued by your comments about kids who need help. That's exactly what my parents and some of their friends used to say about Thurso High School! It was great for the bright ones but no good for most of the rest. I can't confirm whether there was much or indeed even any truth in the claim back then but it's interesting to hear it again after all these years.

Is there not a specialist unit for kids with special needs at the school? I thought I remembered a big song and dance about it when it opened a number of years ago.

Remember that the school your kids go to is mainly determined by where you live. The easiest way to get them into the school you want is to live in that school's catchment area. Some high schools don't have the best of reputations so make you you live in the right area when the time comes!