Interesting subject, and good arguments for and against this type of relationship, however I would say it is almost probable to end in tears. It would seem that most people that have a daughter find it disgusting that a man of this age could have a meaningful relationship (and understandingly so) with a girl of such a young age and yet those who have not could be a little more understanding.
I was fifteen when I was (seduced)lol by Mrs M and she was seventeen and we married a year later, I was not even allowed to have a drink at our wedding reception because I was too young. If you wind the clock forward thirty six years, I have had much banter with my youngest son about this subject (and he is now thirty two) and he used to say “if their feet touch the floor when they are sat on the toilet, then they are old enough”, although his daughter,(my granddaughter is now coming up ten) he would bash you on the nose at the very notion that his little sweet girl would be ready to enter the adult world at sixteen .
I have seen very intelligent people make informed decisions about the way forward based on what is considered (right and proper relationships) and have failed miserably, so if these people are operating within the law then let them get on with it and make their own nest or their own mistakes.
A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears.
and I stand by my assessment, no laws have been broken, and what has this relationship got to do with you or the person who started this thread? like I said in my post " its not your 16 year old daughter", the parents of the young lady in question do not have a problem with this relationship so why should you? It's not your concern. I'm sure that if your daughter was in a similar position you wouldn't be posting it on a public forum. Like I said bazeye was not a mate to his mate, this relationship has nothing to do with him and therefor I fail to see his need to ask for opinions on the matter on a public forum. You have like most on this thread no insight to this relationship and if the couple in question are happy, who are you to question that? I am sure that we are all very qualified to pass judgement on people that we don't even know..........NOT..
Sorry but if you don't like opinions which differ from your own, perhaps these forums aren't the best place to be spending your time. There's dozens of threads every day which basically see people giving opinions on events which they are not directly involved. If you don't like them, don't read them. However people are quite entitled to give an opinion.
The couple in question may well be happy, but the fact is she is a child, and that makes his part in it very questionable to me. No amount of political correctness will change that.
The original poster obviously feels uncomfortable with the situation, and has sought the thoughts of others - he may well want to discuss the matter with his mate, who knows. Just because no "laws" have been broken does not mean that everything is "okay".
IMHO anyone who thinks that it is acceptable for a 16 year old girl to be in a relationship with a 36 year old man, needs to take a good look at themselves.........but that is just my opinion.
'Cause if my eyes don't deceive me,
There's something going wrong around here
right im going to assume you are a male, just by your user name, right lets say you met this girl who you would have thought was in her late teens early twentys and you really took a liking to her and one thing led to another, onl;y for you to discover a few weeks down the line she was only 15 and you were about to be in trouble with the police, your telling me you would be ok with that.
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe
I personally don't understand why this is being discussed on the org, i feel sorry for the two people concerned having their personal life discussed on an open forum, names or no names, they know who they are. It has been said, this is their business and their lives to do with what they want, i fail to see why it should be of so much interest to so many people!
You dont know the lad in question and he doesnt know you. He doesnt even know this website exists so whats your problem? Do you worry about people who you dont know, or ever met and are never likely to, talking about you? And if you dont think its anyones business, why bother posting replies? And what gave you the impression I was jealous, are you a mindreader or merely judging people on your own standards?
John your opinion on this forum is relevant to you but if and when your daughter falls in love, be it with a 36 year old a 46 year old or someone your age your opinion won’t matter a jot. You make many assumptions in your posts, you assume you will be able to make a 36 year old lose interest! You assume your daughter will fall in love with a bloke! In my opinion you should be happy when she is happy and love and support her decisions….right or wrong because we have all made them.
Live the Life
Age shouldn't and doesn't make any difference to love, and it's nobody else's business anyway.
I am the product of an age gap relationship - a very happy and long lasting one... so thank goodness for love being blind!
GOOD LUCK TO THEM!!
Behold the turtle - he only ever gets anywhere by sticking his neck out...
Like I said previously if you were a mate of his you wouldn't be banding his life about on a public website, and if people are talking about me then it means that they are usually leaving someone else alone, and as for the young lady in question, if her parents have no problem with the relationship why should you, my reason for posting a reply was to simply point out that it has nothing to do with anyone except the couple in question.
I was wrong then, apologies.
'Cause if my eyes don't deceive me,
There's something going wrong around here
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