Wow, there are some really great parents on this thread - give yourselves a pat on the back! Sometimes challenges bring out the best in us...
For those of you worrying about the future for your ASD diagnosed children, it's worth having a look at this site:
http://www.arghighland.co.uk/index.html
Autism Rights Group Highland is a voluntary organisation run entirely by adults who are on the autistic spectrum. Their aims include helping people to understand how autistic individuals perceive the world and educate people about autistic
strengths. Some of the ARGH campaigners are parents themselves who only received a diagnosis when their child was identified at school as having an ASD. Others are young adults who have grown up always knowing they are autistic. Within the group you will find intelligent, well-educated, passionate people - all with a diagnosis of ASD. (Some are autistic, some have Asperger's.) I know that none of them have it easy, but I'm also sure that every one of them has strengths and talents and lots to give to society.
So don't write off the future for your child, Brandy. Autistic individuals develop differently from "neuro-typical" children, it's true, but they DO develop with plenty of encouragement and love. Just now, your wee boy may be fixated with Thomas the Tank Engine, but it's very possible that in years to come, he'll become the engineer who is fixated with finding a way for us all to survive on the moon, or the scientist fixated with finding a cure for cancer. And with the tenacity of his autistic mind, he's actually
more likely to succeed in these challenges than someone with a neuro-typical mind. He won't be distracted if that's what he's decided to do - as parents we see that every day.
As a society we NEED autistic minds. They see things differently and so find new solutions that a sheep like myself can't even begin to imagine. They dig their heels in (boy, as parents do we know that?!) but that stubborn streak can be developed into the tenacity required to succeed in their chosen field. The developed autistic mind is well suited to engineering, computing, science, and there are also many creative autistic souls out there excelling in the fields of art, music and writing.
It's tough. There's no doubting that. But I do believe it's worth it. See the best in your child, keep your expectations high, accept that they will never be "ordinary" and cherish the positives that make them "extraordinary".
At school they may often seem to be behind their peers, but they will catch up and it is possible for them to excel as adults, especially if you encourage them to spend time exploring their field of special interest. (It won't always be just Thomas the Tank, I promise you!) Special interests can and should be developed... and the world will be a better place for that.
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