Do we place too much value on appearance?

**Valerie Campbell** · 01-Mar-09, 19:52

This was a debate I saw on the BBC this morning. How do Orgers feel? Personally I think we do on the whole. I'm under no illusion about the way I look which is why I hide away behind a computer, although the older I get the more comfortable I am with myself. Sure, I would like the perfect figure, and moreover, perfect teeth, but I have neither. That said, I am me. To change anything would mean not being me anymore. Hollywood is full of fake, plastic people who have had so much surgery they must look in the mirror and see someone they don't actually recognise. Their pictures appear in magazines and this is the pressure we're all under whether we like it or not. What do you think?

**Loch not Lock** · 01-Mar-09, 20:04

I agree with you 100%. Well said!

**Bazeye** · 01-Mar-09, 20:09

Correct. My way of thinking is, if they dont like me as I am ,Tough!

router · 01-Mar-09, 20:40

Dont put yourself down,

we are us wether we want to be or not. People are too quick to judge people by the way they look, and to be honest we all do it, but when you truely know someone you may see something different.

People with nice smailes and figures are more than not lacking in personality, the "i love me ,you love me too" tend to be arrogant and obnoxious

so good old plain folk who look real will do me.Not meaning everyone is plain, but lets be honest we not all picture perfect

**TRUCKER** · 01-Mar-09, 20:53

it should be take me as i am or dont take me full stop we are what we are beauty is within.

**ShelleyCowie** · 01-Mar-09, 21:22

Im just quite happy sitting behind a computer right now. As soon as i step outside i get completely paranoid. Am i thin enough? Is my hair ok? (usually not lol) Are my clothes ok? bla bla bla...ya get what i mean.

**rockchick** · 01-Mar-09, 22:57

I think that anyone who is genuine, sincere, and passionate about what they love, will always be attractive to people, whether they are physically attractive or not. Surgical procedures should not be required for anyone other than burn victims, and cleft palates.

**teenybash** · 01-Mar-09, 23:00

Originally Posted by ShelleyBain

Im just quite happy sitting behind a computer right now. As soon as i step outside i get completely paranoid. Am i thin enough? Is my hair ok? (usually not lol) Are my clothes ok? bla bla bla...ya get what i mean.

You are the opposite of me as I would love to be more curvy.......and my hair flows as it grows.....

In answer to the question on how we look...........we should never judge a book by it's cover or people. Looks can be so deceiving in many different ways.

**joxville** · 01-Mar-09, 23:00

I don't give a damn how people look and I don't care how they see me. If I did I wouldn't have posted any pics of myself on here. What you see is what you get, bald heid and glasses, the whole works.

**wifie** · 01-Mar-09, 23:05

Originally Posted by rockchick

I think that anyone who is genuine, sincere, and passionate about what they love, will always be attractive to people, whether they are physically attractive or not. Surgical procedures should not be required for anyone other than burn victims, and cleft palates.

Very well said rockchick!

**Angel** · 01-Mar-09, 23:26

I would like to believe all the above but I think it is an aspiration rather than reality.
Everyone no matter who they are have said "look at the state of him/her" so making a judgement prior any other comunication. That judgement has coloured your opinion before you start to know them.
I saw a monster of a guy the other day, tatoos, shaved head, leather and denim, made vinnie jones look like Brad Pitt. Thought I would say hello... yeah right...
Then he opened his mouth and he spoke like Stephen Fry, so I said hello... we ended up haveing coffee and a snack while he explained his HIV status...

So made a judgement, made another, then another...

Angel

**Tugmistress** · 01-Mar-09, 23:32

I am what i am, i'll be comfy for work and general day to day, but i'll make an effort when i go out (maybe once a year!) - i can't be arsed with all that make-up crud lol
i've never been one for reading magazines or following the crowd in fashion - you think it shows?

**balto** · 01-Mar-09, 23:36

i am the way i am people can lek it or lump it, you dont need the latest fashions,hair cut to make you a better person its whats on the inside that counts. loads of people waste so much time making sure their hair/makeup is ok and the clothes they wear are totally crease free, life is to short for this.

**changilass** · 01-Mar-09, 23:36

Nowt wrong with dressing for the circumstances.

Don't think the kinky boots would go to well with the boiler suit anyways Tuggs lol

**Kenn** · 02-Mar-09, 01:30

If you are comfortable with yourself others will pick up on it, no amount of cosmetics,clothes etc.,can alter the person, just give a false image. Wearing a smile is more important than any thing else and sharing it with others can be one of life's greatest pleasures.
"I am what I am, I have no one else to be."

**Anne x** · 02-Mar-09, 02:05

Society will always judge from Facial and Personal appearance how we look be it fat or thin tall or small

Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder mind you Power helps some how many powerfull men / women that are down right awful end up with younger models on there arms sometimes all be it for a very brief time

Personality for me in the end always shines through It is what is in the inside that matters and no amount of plastic surgery can change that

**sassylass** · 02-Mar-09, 04:02

It's easy to say "I'm comfortable in my own skin" but honestly, if I had been born my grandfather's nose I would have considered plastic surgery. Fortunately, the nose I inherited is acceptable.