Are you where you thought you'd be?

[Vistravi]

Are you where you thought to be when first set out on your own?

Did your plans for the future follow through or did they fall flat?

As most of you know i'm 21 and i work in childcare, but i honestly didn't think i'd be where i am now and would never had imangined what would drive me to succed. If i had been told when i turned 17 where i'd be now i'd never had believed it.

I think it is my determention to make good out of the bad that has got me where i am now and what has made me more determined to get what i want out of life. I firmly believe that you have to grab what you want in life and don't let it go untill it's yours. Most things do come to you in time but you have to be sure of what you want first.

So to answer my own question i think the plans i did have have been scraped and replaced with new ones and ones that i am determined to make happen. ;)

[ShelleyCowie]

I never ever thought i would have a child, have a brilliant partner and live away from my mum! hehe.

I was told i couldn't have kids, so didnt really want them. Soon changed my mind eh!:cool:

Im independant now. Its where i want to be. I have responsibilities. And i love it.

I have the best job in the world being a mum and im certainly happy with that! :Razz

[squidge]

If you had asked me when i turned 21 what my life was going to be I would have said i was going to join the air force, get fit and travel. By 22 and a half I was married.

If you had asked where I would be living when i was in my 30s I would never have said Caithness - i didnt even know where it was! It took the chance sighting of a vacancy and suddenly 6 weeks later we moved 500 miles north!

Had you asked me would i find myself alone at the end of my thirties, divorced and living in a flat with my boys i would have laughed - marriage is for life right?

Moving to Inverness was not on my agenda either but here i am.

And I was NEVER EVER EVER getting married again. Meeting the bruce was the single biggest surprise of my whole life.
Having babies in my forties was not part of my lifeplan either but hey ho.

So here i am. 45. With a bit of luck i have another 45 to go. So far its been a million times more painful than i ever thought it would be, Its been a million times more scary than i planned for; Its hurt more than i could ever have even imagined but its been the best ride, the most joyous adventure; the greatest fun.

Who knows what life with throw at me next - bring it on I say - so far its been massively more interesting that I thought it would be. :lol:

And we thought 16 year olds knew nothing - I STILL know nothing lol and thank goodness for that.

[Vistravi]

I never ever thought i would have a child, have a brilliant partner and live away from my mum! hehe.

I was told i couldn't have kids, so didnt really want them. Soon changed my mind eh!:cool:

Im independant now. Its where i want to be. I have responsibilities. And i love it.

I have the best job in the world being a mum and im certainly happy with that! :Razz

Aye and you're a brilliant mum too!! You're wee monkey is very lucky indeed ;)

I never thought that at 21 i'd be living in inverness at all or that i'd have two other sisters and a step dad who's advice i ask of alot! I've always wanted to move away from caithness but never thought then what would make me move away other than work reasons.

[Phill]

Are you where you thought you'd be?

I still don't know where I'm going!

In my view there are two ways to go about things, you can sit back and wait until someone or something comes along and gives you an easy ride.
Or you can get out there and grab whatever opportunity comes your way and make it work.

And my grand plans I had formulated for world domination..... well I said I'd never get married for starters and after ten years of marriage world domination has fallen down the priority list a little.

But this post made me think of a popular music chart entry some time ago......


Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’99
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be
it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by
scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering
experience…I will dispense this advice now. Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not
understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and
recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked….You’re not as fat as you
imagine. Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as
effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing
bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that
never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm
on some idle Tuesday. Do one thing everyday that scares you Sing Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with
people who are reckless with yours. Floss Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes
you’re behind…the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with
yourself. Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you
succeed in doing this, tell me how. Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements. Stretch Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your
life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they
wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year
olds I know still don’t. Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone. Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children,maybe
you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky
chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary…what ever you do, don’t
congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either – your
choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s. Enjoy your body,
use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people
think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever
own.. Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room. Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them. Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly. Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for
good. Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the
people most likely to stick with you in the future. Understand that friends come and go,but for the precious few you
should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and
lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you
knew when you were young. Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live
in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel. Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will
philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize
that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were
noble and children respected their elders. Respect your elders. Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund,
maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one
might run out. Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will
look 85. Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who
supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the
ugly parts and recycling it for more than
it’s worth. But trust me on the sunscreen…


I'm not quite sure what goes on in Baz Luhrmann's head but he does come out with some interesting stuff.

[Serenity]

The words weren't written by Baz Lurhman: http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/columnists/chi-schmich-sunscreen-column,0,4054576.column
I love the sentiment of it.

And to answer the original question, no I am not. A long way off.

[joxville]

But this post made me think of a popular music chart entry some time ago......


Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’99



I'm not quite sure what goes on in Baz Luhrmann's head but he does come out with some interesting stuff.

It's a great song but I hate to disappoint you Phill, Baz Luhrmann only put the music to someone elses words. Here's the video and check info box about the writer: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI

[Phill]

OK, standing in the corner with the dunces hat on.

I should have said produces some interesting stuff.

[purplelady]

If you had asked me when i turned 21 what my life was going to be I would have said i was going to join the air force, get fit and travel. By 22 and a half I was married.

If you had asked where I would be living when i was in my 30s I would never have said Caithness - i didnt even know where it was! It took the chance sighting of a vacancy and suddenly 6 weeks later we moved 500 miles north!

Had you asked me would i find myself alone at the end of my thirties, divorced and living in a flat with my boys i would have laughed - marriage is for life right?

Moving to Inverness was not on my agenda either but here i am.

And I was NEVER EVER EVER getting married again. Meeting the bruce was the single biggest surprise of my whole life.
Having babies in my forties was not part of my lifeplan either but hey ho.

So here i am. 45. With a bit of luck i have another 45 to go. So far its been a million times more painful than i ever thought it would be, Its been a million times more scary than i planned for; Its hurt more than i could ever have even imagined but its been the best ride, the most joyous adventure; the greatest fun.

Who knows what life with throw at me next - bring it on I say - so far its been massively more interesting that I thought it would be. :lol:

And we thought 16 year olds knew nothing - I STILL know nothing lol and thank goodness for that.
can relate to what you are saying i was married at 20 and would not have seen myself at 49 a single mum ,and meeting my lovely fella hoping in a few yrs time to be living in perth with him xxx

[achingale]

I think the best thing is not to make plans. Let life's winding road take you wherever it wants to. I have lived all over Scotland, made loads of friends, had loads of jobs, married and had children. Where I am now is not where I will end up but when fate tells me to move on I will. Life is a great mystery bus ride and I have enjoyed most of it. Then if I had not had the sad times, I would not know the happy ones. My ambition in life has always to be happy - and I am! :)