View Full Version : Dating for those of a certain age!
WickWitch
08-Sep-09, 19:20
A girlfriend of mine recently divorced and has now joined the ranks of the internet daters. She has had a few 'interesting' escapades most of which have been hilarious (for me!) but it got me wondering how do others in the same situation fare?
It must be very difficult for singles of a certain age to meet other singles especially in areas where the population is scattered.
teddybear1873
08-Sep-09, 19:28
A girlfriend of mine recently divorced and has now joined the ranks of the internet daters. She has had a few 'interesting' escapades most of which have been hilarious (for me!) but it got me wondering how do others in the same situation fare?
It must be very difficult for singles of a certain age to meet other singles especially in areas where the population is scattered.
And what is a certain age?
WickWitch
08-Sep-09, 19:30
Shall we say over 25? My friend is 21!! (with a daughter of the same age)
Would assume dating is the same at any age. You get to know the person and decide to ditch or learn more. The use them and leave them theory;)
Kids throw a spanner in the works but that is why you are upfront with the person you are seeing and the kids and the man/woman only meet if you think its worth it. Save this nonsense where daft parents introduce soembody as uncle/aunt whoever to their kids only for that person to walk away.
I would think at 21 your friend would have a pretty good chance of meeting someone if she went out socialising on a saturday night, much safer than meeting a stranger off the internet too.
WickWitch
08-Sep-09, 21:00
Apologies, I should have stated that this is a light hearted thread. My friend is in her 50's (hence having a daughter of 21) and is dipping her toes into the dating world after being married for many years.
I just wondered how do people meet other single people in her situation. She has decided that the internet is the way to go as most people that she knows are married or attached.
When we are young(er) we normally have a group of friends and go pubbing and clubbing etc. but what would you do to find a new partner?
teddybear1873
08-Sep-09, 21:17
I would think at 21 your friend would have a pretty good chance of meeting someone if she went out socialising on a saturday night, much safer than meeting a stranger off the internet too.
And how is it much safer meeting someone on saturday night, rather than the internet?
Apologies, I should have stated that this is a light hearted thread. My friend is in her 50's (hence having a daughter of 21) and is dipping her toes into the dating world after being married for many years.
I just wondered how do people meet other single people in her situation. She has decided that the internet is the way to go as most people that she knows are married or attached.
When we are young(er) we normally have a group of friends and go pubbing and clubbing etc. but what would you do to find a new partner?
Lol!! I should of read that properly its quite obvious what you meant sorry.
:lol:
And how is it much safer meeting someone on saturday night, rather than the internet?
your in a public place surrounded by friends & most of the time someone you know will know whoever it is that has an interest in you & can tell you what sort of person they are etc. On the internet your meeting someone you have no real knowledge of, they could look completely different to what they say they do & could have lied about what sort of person they are.Worst case senario of course!:eek:
There was a group in wick called Serendipity which met weekly in Mackays. It consisted of a group of single/divorced/widowed men and women aged 30-60, who would meet for a meal or go to the pictures together etc. It folded after most of the members moved away. It just needs sopmeone to get another group started.
teddybear1873
09-Sep-09, 03:10
your in a public place surrounded by friends & most of the time someone you know will know whoever it is that has an interest in you & can tell you what sort of person they are etc. On the internet your meeting someone you have no real knowledge of, they could look completely different to what they say they do & could have lied about what sort of person they are.Worst case senario of course!:eek:
People tell lies whether it's in a pub or the net. I'm not saying net dating is good or bad. It worked for myself but I made sure I did it very carefully. I would never tell anyone to meet someone of the net unless they were very postive and doing so.
oldmarine
09-Sep-09, 06:36
Found some interesting comments on this thread. I had a similar situation when I lost my first wife to ovarian cancer leaving me with two children ages 9 & 11 years. We had been married 15 years when she died. I had forgotten how to make a dating contact. After two years of being a sole parent, my daughter made a contact that helped me. Her elementary school teacher had reached out to my daughter and helped fill the void of losing her mother. My daughter brought the two of us together. I had this idea of asking her for a date but the age difference of 17-1/4 years made me hesitate. I finally got the courage to ask her out for dinner and she accepted. After dinner I tried to hint by discussing the problems of a woman marrying an older man with two children. The lady asked are you asking me to marry you? When I admitted yes she stated "why don't you come out and ask me?" I did and she said yes and that took care of the whole situation. We will have been married 40 years this next 1/31. We now have an additional two children. Life has been good.
Tubthumper
09-Sep-09, 07:43
Oldmarine, your post has restored my faith in the human race. I have a lump in my throat and a wee smile on my wizened, cynical old face.
maybe the org should start a dating site?
Found some interesting comments on this thread. I had a similar situation when I lost my first wife to ovarian cancer leaving me with two children ages 9 & 11 years. We had been married 15 years when she died. I had forgotten how to make a dating contact. After two years of being a sole parent, my daughter made a contact that helped me. Her elementary school teacher had reached out to my daughter and helped fill the void of losing her mother. My daughter brought the two of us together. I had this idea of asking her for a date but the age difference of 17-1/4 years made me hesitate. I finally got the courage to ask her out for dinner and she accepted. After dinner I tried to hint by discussing the problems of a woman marrying an older man with two children. The lady asked are you asking me to marry you? When I admitted yes she stated "why don't you come out and ask me?" I did and she said yes and that took care of the whole situation. We will have been married 40 years this next 1/31. We now have an additional two children. Life has been good.
What a lovely ending to what started of as a sad story. May you enjoy many more happy years together.:)
What a lovely story Oldmarine, I am so glad you had a second chance at it all xx
I have lots and lots of internet dating stories, none that I shall be sharing here ;)
But IMHO it is a great way to meet people be it friends or more.
I think it can be very difficult for women and I assume men to get back out there.
I don't think internet dating is any more risky than meeting someone in the pub, infact the one scary experience I have had since being single again has been with a friend of a friend.
WickWitch
09-Sep-09, 10:56
A heartwarming story oldmarine. Thank you for sharing. I hope that you and your lady enjoy many more special years together.
I would think at 21 your friend would have a pretty good chance of meeting someone if she went out socialising on a saturday night, much safer than meeting a stranger off the internet too.
i met someone on the internet. It wasnt a dating site, but we met up, and have now been together for 11 years, married for 6 and waiting the arrival of baby no 3!!!.
agree with the safety side of it, i didnt meet him myself, but its getting to be a more common and acceptable way to meet people, and not just partners, but friends too.
WickWitch
09-Sep-09, 12:46
That is great Honey, I hope that number 3 arrives safely.
tonkatojo
09-Sep-09, 13:34
A girlfriend of mine recently divorced and has now joined the ranks of the internet daters. She has had a few 'interesting' escapades most of which have been hilarious (for me!) but it got me wondering how do others in the same situation fare?
It must be very difficult for singles of a certain age to meet other singles especially in areas where the population is scattered.
Would you being her " girl friend " be the cause of her divorce ? and she has now had to resort to internet dating. Shame on you, or have I picked you up wrongly
;)
Re. overcoming the problems of looking for love in remote places - does anyone want to buy a bicycle....?
WickWitch
09-Sep-09, 14:14
Goodness Tonkatojo, were you trying to pick me up :):)
Girlfriend in a strictly platonic fashion. I don't, and never have had, batted for the opposite side. I much prefer my men to be...men!;)
WickWitch
09-Sep-09, 14:17
Re. overcoming the problems of looking for love in remote places - does anyone want to buy a bicycle....?
Cheaper than a white charger I suppose :lol:
Found some interesting comments on this thread. I had a similar situation when I lost my first wife to ovarian cancer leaving me with two children ages 9 & 11 years. We had been married 15 years when she died. I had forgotten how to make a dating contact. After two years of being a sole parent, my daughter made a contact that helped me. Her elementary school teacher had reached out to my daughter and helped fill the void of losing her mother. My daughter brought the two of us together. I had this idea of asking her for a date but the age difference of 17-1/4 years made me hesitate. I finally got the courage to ask her out for dinner and she accepted. After dinner I tried to hint by discussing the problems of a woman marrying an older man with two children. The lady asked are you asking me to marry you? When I admitted yes she stated "why don't you come out and ask me?" I did and she said yes and that took care of the whole situation. We will have been married 40 years this next 1/31. We now have an additional two children. Life has been good.
what a beautiful story! I hope you have many more happy years together:D
cuddlepop
09-Sep-09, 15:49
Oldmarine that is a lesson to us all in how to overcome grief and move on.
You and your children were so very lucky in finding such a wonderful woman.
I love happy endings.:D
Does your friend go to any of the clubs that are available up there.
Walking,dancing,bowling etc.
Find friendship first,you never know what will follow on.;)
WickWitch
09-Sep-09, 15:55
Oldmarine that is a lesson to us all in how to overcome grief and move on.
You and your children were so very lucky in finding such a wonderful woman.
I love happy endings.:D
Does your friend go to any of the clubs that are available up there.
Walking,dancing,bowling etc.
Find friendship first,you never know what will follow on.;)
Hi Cuddlepop
Unfortunately she doesn't live up here so she can't enjoy the attention of the gorgeous men on offer ;)
cuddlepop
09-Sep-09, 16:10
Hi Cuddlepop
Unfortunately she doesn't live up here so she can't enjoy the attention of the gorgeous men on offer ;)
I dont live there either so will take your word on all those good looking men .;):lol:
Where ever your friend stays there must be some sort of like minded people doing something?
purplelady
12-Sep-09, 23:50
i am shall we say in late 40s and have found myself single again last yr I met a lovely man who I have been seeing for a while now we met in a hotal bar in glasgow i was there with a pal and he was too. I also have a pal who met her man on the net and they married last yr xxxxxx so tell your friend not to give up x ho and my fella is 8 yrs younger than me xxxxx
WickWitch
13-Sep-09, 17:13
Well done purplelady. I hope that you have many happy years together. At least with a younger man you have a chance that they will be able to keep up with you ;)
Well done purplelady. I hope that you have many happy years together. At least with a younger man you have a chance that they will be able to keep up with you ;)
Steady now. :eek:
Forget the age thing--believe me it is non existant!!
I met my husband on the internet, we spent a lot of time talking on the phone, emailing, sent pic's and we knew each other really well before we met up face to face, we started talking at the start of February 2005, met face to face once in the March and I moved down to live with him in the April, we got engaged in February 2006 and married in June 2008 and are now trying for a family, he is my soulmate of whom I never thought I would meet he is my best friend and we are so alike in many many ways, it was just fate that brought us together as I wasn't keen on the whole Internet dating thing and he was the only person that I ever replied too on the Internet Dating site and I am so glad that I did as otherwise I would not have met the most fantastic man I could ever meet.
Now a day's more and more people are using dating sites to find partners, it is not as weird and strange as people used to think it was.
I say that if you live in a remote area where the population is scattered far and wide, Internet Dating is the way to go, yes you do have to be careful but if you go about it in the right way, it can give you lots of fun times and maybe out of those fun times, you will find that special person.
If I was ever back on the dating scene through one reason or another, I would definately go online again, there are just so many amazing people to meet.
there are just so many amazing people to meet.
That's right...people such as me! :)
I've done internet dating a few times and though no long-standing relationships have developed from it, I'd still recommend it as a way of meeting a like-minded person.
WickWitch
13-Sep-09, 19:54
Steady now. :eek:
I'll try ;)
So far my friend has met three;
1) Was supposed to be 5'10". She is the same height so thought that it would be a good match. It turned out that he was 5'10" when standing on a 6" box!.
2) Was a man married to a girl at her works!
3) Was a little older than he had said. About 15 years.
She is in good spirits still and I have told her that there are some who have found happiness on the net.
northener
13-Sep-09, 23:27
OldMarine, I've only just picked up on this thread.
Good on you, Leatherneck. May you long enjoy the happiness you both have found.
http://images.paraorkut.com/img/funnypics/images/o/online_dating-12498.jpg
:lol:
tonkatojo
14-Sep-09, 12:19
http://images.paraorkut.com/img/funnypics/images/o/online_dating-12498.jpg
:lol:
Brilliant, I wonder how true to life that is ?.
I expect some ridicule from some quarters, but go canny.
oldmarine
14-Sep-09, 14:33
OldMarine, I've only just picked up on this thread.
Good on you, Leatherneck. May you long enjoy the happiness you both have found.
Thank you northener. I turned 84 years last August 23rd. My young wife will be 67 on November 28. My children, our children, and all of our grandchildren and greatgrandchildren have been blessed by our union coming up with 40 years next January 31st.
why do men always want younger women?
why do men always want younger women?
i can think of one reason. :)
why do men always want younger women?
Not all men you for younger models,both my ex hubby and my fiance are both younger than me x
tonkatojo
14-Sep-09, 15:50
i can think of one reason. :)
I can think of a few more.;)
why do men always want younger women?
I've been with older women. How old you ask? Well, a couple of them are probably dead now. :eek:
[lol]
I've been with older women. How old you ask? Well, a couple of them are probably dead now. :eek:
[lol]
Hope they werent dead at the time.:eek:
tonkatojo
14-Sep-09, 19:44
I've been with older women. How old you ask? Well, a couple of them are probably dead now. :eek:
[lol]
Natural causes I expect, not the weird disease deaths I hope. :eek:
WickWitch
14-Sep-09, 19:55
I've been with older women. How old you ask? Well, a couple of them are probably dead now. :eek:
[lol]
I hope that they went with a smile on their face?:Razz
why do men always want younger women?
Not always true, I'm quite happy with the woman I've got and we are of a comparable age.
However nice au pair wouldn't go amiss, twenty something, silky blonde hair, lightly tanned skin, long slender legs, blue eyes and huge......
..., I'm dribbling all over my keyboard now!
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