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I Lost My Dog On Sunday, The Pain Is So Bad , Dont Know How T Deal With It.....
I had to get my very old dog put to sleep 6 weeks ago and I know how you are feeling, it is a very raw pain but it will pass in time and you will be able to think of your dog and smile and remember all the fun times, Time is a great healer. I had my dog cremated and her ashes are in my sitting room unit and she will always be with us.
I dont know if you have read my thread "give your dogs an extra cuddle" as i lost my boy last wednesday, every message i got on here helped me so much, talking about the loss helps too even if you think no-one cares there is always some-one out there who has gone through a similar experience, jake was more than a pet he was my baby boy, its 5 days now and im crying writing this, writing on here will help loads tell us all about your dog.
Her Name Is Page , And She Was 3 Years Old, She Got Run Over And Died In My Arms, We Did Every Thing Together, I Never Went Out Of The House With Out Her Being With Me, I Never Had To Tell Her Want To Do She Just Know, She Love Being Around The Other Animales, And I Cant Get Thourh The Days With Out Her,
That is just awful, its worse when they are young (jake would have been 4 next week) and when its under horrid circumstances, you will be in shock, i too worked my day around my dog, but as i have said already it shows how much you loved them when you are suffering unbelievable pain now they are gone, i will never get over jake, but believe me im now 5 days on and the pain is still there, but i think its more believable now that he is gone, we too had jake cremated and in our own time we will go back to dornoch with him.
my eyes are welling ur reading all those posts..... i lots my dog 2 and a bit years ago, his kidneys failed, i couldnt believe the pain i felt when he died, im so so sorry for ur loss xxx:~(
cuddlepop
16-Jul-07, 22:23
How awfull for you,no words could ever express my sympathy for you.
My old dog's my best friend,who means the world to me.
blondscot
16-Jul-07, 23:02
My heart and thoughts go out to you at this time of loss. My dogs are my babies and i dread the day that i need to say farewell to my two older ones
No words can ease the pain but time will soften it and the memories you have of her and the unquestioning love she gave will help in time
So desperately sorry for the tragic loss of Page.
All of us who have lost much loved pets can empathise with the awful, awful pain you are feeling just now and no words can take that away.
However, it may sound like a cliche, but time will ease the raw grief and you will be able to remember Page with smiles instead of tears.
Tugmistress
17-Jul-07, 00:04
It might sound crazy, but when i had to bite the bullet and put my old boy to sleep last year, i sat and wrote him a poem, you can see it here (http://forum.caithness.org/showthread.php?t=15899), it helped me cry and accept he was gone and not suffering now :) maybe it would help you too if you wrote down what was special about Page, it makes a nice memorium :)
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
I truly believe that we will meet our beloved pets , who have passed over, again.
Maybe it would help to write something to put on a memoriam page on a website with a photo/photos. I know a number of people who have found that it helps to write something down and have it there to commemorate their lost friend.
Lolabelle
17-Jul-07, 07:09
I am so sorry for your loss rowan, it is so horrible to lose a friend. I think to do a memorial to her would be beautiful. Put it on here, or give her a website all of her own. I think the poems are lovely, but I have trouble reading them for the emotion that clogs my throat and constricts my heart.
But greiving is a process and you must go through all the stages to be able to come to terms with your loss.
Take care and keep in touch with us here, there are a lot of people who care and understand.
thank you all for your kind words, it dose help, made her a lovley grave so i can sit with her, that helps too, thanks again xx
porshiepoo
17-Jul-07, 08:42
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
I truly believe that we will meet our beloved pets , who have passed over, again.
I have to be one of the most unemotional people I know Liz, but that poem gets me every time and the video to it is even worse. :(
Rowan, there is nothing any of us can say to make things easier for you, suffice to say at one point or another each of us has been in your shoes and really do understand the pain you're feeling right now.
I too believe that we'll all be reunited with our pets one day, I also think a memorian page is a very good idea.
Thoughts are with you!
neepnipper
17-Jul-07, 10:53
Just wanted to share an experience I had with one of my cats a few years ago (Sorry Liz, you've heard this before!) that makes me believe 100% that we will be reunited with our departed pets;
I had gone to bed as normal, little Lenny my gorgeous 9 month old grey tabby slept in the conservatory with a cat flap in the door so that he could go in and out as he pleased.
In the middle of the night I was woken by something jumping on the bed and purring, I thought 'Lenny must have got upstairs' so I sat up ready to take him back down to the conservatory, well, there was nothing there, 'strange' I thought.
Went back to sleep, in the morning there was no sign of Lenny, we called and called, then a lady from down the road came over and asked if we were missing our cat as there was one lying on the verge down the road dead.
We dashed down and it was Lenny, not a mark on him but he must have been knocked over in the night, we lived in a tiny village with hardly any traffic and we were so upset.
Then I remembered what had happened in the night, Lenny had come to say 'Goodbye', I can still remember the feeling of something jumping on the bed and the purring as if it was yesterday I am convinced that we will meet up again one day.
Just wanted to share an experience I had with one of my cats a few years ago (Sorry Liz, you've heard this before!) that makes me believe 100% that we will be reunited with our departed pets;
I had gone to bed as normal, little Lenny my gorgeous 9 month old grey tabby slept in the conservatory with a cat flap in the door so that he could go in and out as he pleased.
In the middle of the night I was woken by something jumping on the bed and purring, I thought 'Lenny must have got upstairs' so I sat up ready to take him back down to the conservatory, well, there was nothing there, 'strange' I thought.
Went back to sleep, in the morning there was no sign of Lenny, we called and called, then a lady from down the road came over and asked if we were missing our cat as there was one lying on the verge down the road dead.
We dashed down and it was Lenny, not a mark on him but he must have been knocked over in the night, we lived in a tiny village with hardly any traffic and we were so upset.
Then I remembered what had happened in the night, Lenny had come to say 'Goodbye', I can still remember the feeling of something jumping on the bed and the purring as if it was yesterday I am convinced that we will meet up again one day.
You shared this with me when I lost Rusty my cat and it was a great comfort as it confirmed my beliefs that our beloved pets live on.
Though the pain of not being able to see them or hold them is unbearable at times, it is wonderful to know we will be reunited one day.
Rowan why don't you get a wee gravestone and then you can 'visit' Page and spend some time with her.
rowan...i am so sorry for what has happened to ur wee page.awful that she was lost in such circumstances.
i lost one of my cockers ,abbi 9 days ago to cancer.i still have 5 cockers and a baby basset with me ,but we still feel our loss.
as everyone has said time will help,but i know it is unbearable pain.
talk to ur dogggie friends ,they have all lost a pet at some time.they and i understand that we feel so much pain for such a long time.
my very first dog ,scamp died when i was 14[now 54] and i still feel the pain.
go to page s grave and talk with her.
i talk to all of my lost dogs[yes i probably am mad].
four days before i lost my dad ,our zoe[died at 4 years] appeared in the hallway ,just for seconds..i knew she had come to get her daddy.he died 4 days later.it gave me some comfort and he now has more dogs at the rainbow bridge with him ,than i have here!!
page will never be forgotten.i send u licks and paws from
SAFFI,MAISIE ,LOTTIE,PENNY,BAILEY AND PHOEBE BASSET.TOO
our thoughts are with u.
luskentyre
17-Jul-07, 23:19
Rowan, I'm so very sorry to hear about Page. I know it's little consolation at the moment, but you obviously loved her a lot, and I'm sure she knew that. Her life might have been short, but you made it special.
Take care.
hi, thank you all for all your kind words, nothing will bring page back , but i do have some good news i have a new puppy called faye,and she is a hand full, i still go and talk to page 2 times a day , and now faye comes too, may be this is the start of something , i hope so , thanks again to ever one xx
hi, thank you all for all your kind words, nothing will bring page back , but i do have some good news i have a new puppy called faye,and she is a hand full, i still go and talk to page 2 times a day , and now faye comes too, may be this is the start of something , i hope so , thanks again to ever one xx
i hope you and faye are happy - page will be in your heart forever!
all the best :)
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