friendship

[motopitcrew]

how do you mesure true friendship?
is it what you do for your friends or they do for you
or is it what you dont have to do

[henry20]

Its what you don't have to do.

Its the fact you may not speak for months, but know you are there for each other when things get tough.

Its the not needing to be in touch to know they think of you.

Its knowing that you'll always have a space in their busy schedule when you need it.

:D:D

[dpw39]

Have just received this from a friend from over the water.

There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things "in order," she contacted her pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes. She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in. Everything was in order and the pastor was preparing to leave when the young woman suddenly remembered something very important to her. "There's one more thing," she said excitedly. "What's that?" came the pastor's reply. "This is very important," the young woman continued. "I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand." The pastor stood looking at the young woman, not knowing quite what to say. "That surprises you, doesn't it?" the young woman asked. "Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request," said the pastor. The young woman explained. "My grandmother once told me this story, and from there on out, I have always done so. I have also, always tried to pass along its message to those I love and those who are in need of encouragement. 'In all my years of attending church socials and potluck dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, 'Keep your fork' It was my favourite part because I knew that something better was coming ... Like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance!' So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder "What’s with the fork?” Then I want you to tell them: "Keep your fork ... The best is yet to come." The pastor's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the young woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the young woman had a better grasp of heaven than he did. She had a better grasp of what heaven would be like than many people twice her age, with twice as much experience and knowledge. She KNEW that something better was coming. At the funeral people were walking by the young woman's casket and they saw the pretty dress she was wearing and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the pastor heard the question "What's with the fork?" And over & over he smiled. During his message, the pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the young woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. The pastor told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either. He was right. So the next time you reach down for your fork, let it remind you ever so gently, that the best is yet to come.

Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us. Show your friends how much you care. Remember to always be there for them, even when you need them more. For you never know when it may be their time to "Keep your fork." Cherish the time you have, and the memories you share being friends with someone is not an opportunity but a sweet responsibility.

Copy an email this to your friends to let you know that you’re thinking of them, no matter where they are in the world.

Ciao,

[Fran]

What a really lovely story dpw3. It is amazing what people think of when they know they are dying. One lady I know is clearing out her "clutter" from her house so that her daughter wont have to do it when she is gone.
A friend who died last year, and lived alone, was not afraid of dying but asked me to make sure that when her family came up for her funeral, to make sure her dogs ashes which she had kept for years, were buried with her. this was the one thing that she worried about. I felt very happy to put the pot of ashes in her coffin myself and know I had done what she wanted.

[paris]

I dont think you can put into words what a true friend means to you. If i was able i would do ANYTHING with-in my powers for my friends. I laugh with them and cry with them ( those that do cry ) and i just wish i could be closer to them.
My best friend and i fell out over something really stupid and as some of you know that is partly why we moved back to Linc's but if only we had of talked instead of bickering, why oh why didnt i talk to her and tell her how i was feeling i will never know. Anyway, were back to as we were before all the arguing now and i couldn't be happier, well i could if only hubby would move back up .LOL jan x

[porshiepoo]

I dont think you can put into words what a true friend means to you. If i was able i would do ANYTHING with-in my powers for my friends. I laugh with them and cry with them ( those that do cry )

Oh you just HAD to get that one in eh???? :lol:

[QUOTE]
and i just wish i could be closer to them.
My best friend and i fell out over something really stupid and as some of you know that is partly why we moved back to Linc's but if only we had of talked instead of bickering, why oh why didnt i talk to her and tell her how i was feeling i will never know.

Cos you're as stubborn as I am eh!:lol:

[brandy]

how to measure true friendship? hmm how much you can do and they can still take.. and tell you all about it! and after the fall out.. still be as close as ever!
also vice versa! *G*

[George Brims]

A friend will help you move.

A true friend will help you move a body.

[sapphire]

A friend will help you move.

A true friend will help you move a body.


Are you sure about that? ;)
Hope you are not speaking from experience!

[Murchiemannie]

A true friend will always be there for you no matter what or when you need them.
My friend and I have been pals all our lives as we grew up together, went to school together had our kids about the same time making them mates as well.Even though we live 2hours away in different cities we still manage to see one another and talk non stop on the phone....where would we be without the phone .
A friend always puts you before themselves and is a true treasure.After 65 yrs it is" simpy the best"