Dating Sites

[Fran]

Curious about dating sites and if many people meet others on them.
Have you met someone through a dating site? Did your romance last? Did you experience many problems?
My friend has finished with a man she has been going out with for over a year who she met on a dating site as he is still on them!! A couple of months after they were going together he promised to remove them, but she found out last week that they are still there and two he has changed his details or his name on them.
He denies that they are all his but she found them on his computer. she knows he is not looking at them and puts them into his scam box.
Strange behaviour, think he has a problem.
Could you trust a man or woman you meet on a dating site?
Is there something wrong with them that they are using dating sites?
I understand there is now a new web site where women can find out if the man they are going to meet is married or not and what other sites he is on.
I think this is a good idea.
Comments please?

[ducati]

I think many frightening or nasty or sad stories start, I met him/her on the internet.

[pat]

Does not matter where you meet a potential partner or friend - one of the main ingredients of any relationship is TRUST and if that is in question you will always be wondering about the true situation of this relationship. with continual doubting of the trust aspect the relationship will end due to feelings of insecurity.

If in doubt go with the gut instinct, it is very rarely wrong.

Do not think it matters if people meet on internet or otherwise, to me that is irrelevant as they get to know each other.

Every person is taken on trust - once that trust is broken in whatever way, I would always be looking out for the next break of trust, would take a very ong time for me to trust that person again if ever.

[Torvaig]

Well said Pat; how many people go on a night out and meet someone new? Are we all supposed be formally introduced, only go on a date with someone we know.... I don't think so.

Once upon a time, a long, long time ago (well ok then, when I was young) people went to dances either in the town or the country, started dancing together, the boy saw the girl home and all this without having met before, without knowing their parents or even been introduced.

I have no doubt some people misused that trust but then so do family members, neighbours etc., nowadays, with upsetting outcomes.

If anyone wants to use a dating site, have a look at who is on it. There are various dedicated ones such as "Muddy Matches" which match up people who are farmers, sporting or country-loving folks hoping to meet like-minded partners.

As with meeting anyone new, you meet in public, stay in public and if you get on you can take the friendship further or you can just remain friends and enjoy each others interests. To be honest Fran, dating sites have the same glitches and pleasant surprises as with meeting people through friends, shared interests, your work etc. As Pat says, it is all down to judgement and trust.

[Hoida]

We have friends who met this way and must admit was horrified that she was going down that road but low and behold they have been married 30+years and are very happy. Both had been very career minded an djust didn't socialise much but it has worked for them and as long as you are careful and go with your gut instincts it should be Ok :lol::lol:

[EDDIE]

Internet dating is modern way of doing things it not any more unsafe than meeting someone in a pub.
When your young you have mates to go out clubbing so you have an opportunity to meet someone but when you get older you lose touch were your mates or there settled down with familys so if your relationship finishes its not so easy to just go out clubbing and meet someone considering half the people in the nighclubs might be half your age or you dont no anyone that wants to go out drinking every weekend thats why the internet dating is a good idea were you can go online meet someone your own age gap with same interest that are also looking for a relationship or one night stand whatever the case might be.
I would say to anyone that is single and looking to go and give a shot whats there to lose and if does work the first time have another go?

[ecb]

There is a helpfull entry (including problems) about Internet Dating on Wikipedia:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_dating


I tried some paid for services (on newspaper web sites), without much success, then I tried the free Plenty of Fish web site.

http://www.plentyoffish.com

It took time, but I have found a fine woman through the site, we have been in a relationship for eighteen months, so it has been successful for me.

Factors such as geography are important though, I am based in Central Scotland so there are many more potential partners down here than in a sparsely populated area such as Caithness.

[onecalledk]

Dont see anything wrong with it at all. A good friend of mine met her now husband on a dating site. Yes there are players but there are players in every walk of life, meeting a guy in a nightclub/pub, seeing him for a few months then finding out he is seeing other people behind your back doesnt stop because its on the internet or off the internet. If a guy (or a girl) is inclined to do this then they will.

Remember its a lot easier to hide behind a photo and some fancy words on a website. Its advisable therefore to meet the person in the flesh so to speak earlier rather than later, as mentioned before be safe, tell people where you are going and go by your gut instinct.

K

[Blarney]

We have friends who met this way and must admit was horrified that she was going down that road but low and behold they have been married 30+years and are very happy. Both had been very career minded an djust didn't socialise much but it has worked for them and as long as you are careful and go with your gut instincts it should be Ok :lol::lol:
....errr, which internet dating sites existed 30+ years ago???:confused

[Phill]

I've tried a couple:

www.russianbrides(much cheapness).com (http://www.simplified-dating.com/jokes-about-internet-dating.html)

www.taiwanladyboys.com (http://www.simplified-dating.com/jokes-about-internet-dating.html)
















Sorry, couldn't resist.
:evil

[sweetpea]

Is it true some dating scoundrels have been using the Org forums to find their victims?

[Corrie 3]

Is it true some dating scoundrels have been using the Org forums to find their victims?
Not me....!!!!!!!

C3.....;)

[mums angels]

I have seen both sides of the internet dating via friends or family , some of them are just bizzare stories of weirdos and people who have over exagerated certain areas so havnt lived up to the expectations etc. however i also know of several that have turned out great and have resulted in marrige/ children or long term partnership . In most cases of people i have known to use them it is just lack of time/confidence to go out and meet someone so i say why not use them . I do not understand why some people i know use these sites just to "hook" up and have no interest in a long term relationship :confused so i think that makes it harder to filter out what people really want out of these sites

[Paul_and_Anna]

....errr, which internet dating sites existed 30+ years ago???:confused


Indeed .......... :)

I wonder if everybody uses their "Online" photographs or their real mugshots?

There is one good thing to be said about the internet, it is at times the perfect vehicle for finding a very good laugh or two.

Paul. (Perfectly Tickled)